The best sex toys to enjoy as a couple

The game is very important in human development: from the earliest childhood it is fundamental in the cognitive, muscular, social and emotional evolution of a person.

Through play, a person learns the deployment and limits of force, impulse control, balance, ethics, and problem solving. By playing she learns to know the world, herself and others, but it is also an irreplaceable tool for study, even work, and above all for confidence in others and in herself.

It is still essential in adulthood. Playing is also very important for adults, and why say it as a couple. Toys, yes, are changing a bit. Or absolutely. And the dynamics too. But the bottom line seems to be the same: the opportunity to strengthen ties, develop mutual trust, deepen knowledge and arouse curiosity.

The tour was long but relevant as a prelude to talking about sex toys for couple fun. We asked a panel of experts why it’s important to continue playing into adulthood and how the inclusion of one or another small toy can be highly recommended for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sex life.

“In my experience, couples who play have a more satisfying sex life,” says Ibania Gardilcic, neuropsychologist specializing in sex education and co-founder of The secrets of love . “The complicity that takes place is a source of connection, with an element of mystery specific to eroticism.”

Ignacia Rabanal, sexologist and creator of the sexshop Positive vibes ensures that the game helps to increase the sexual desire in the couple, as well as to get out of the monotony in which it can fall over time (as well warned by Shakira herself in her latest single ). “Introducing games makes us think about novelty and generates new experiences,” he says.

The sexologist and psychologist Javiera Urrutia, creator of the flirty initiative I connect —a platform for meeting face-to-face and in a secure space—describes the subject as “very important, especially among couples who have been together for several years”.

“Unfortunately, security is usually not erotic,” he says. “Uncertainty, on the contrary, acts as an aphrodisiac, as long as it is taken as an element of play and eroticism. And this is achieved when we begin to look at our partner with new eyes and discover other aspects of him that surprise us. For this, the game is the key”.

Gardilcic is inspired and comments, “In gaming, you can innovate, co-create with each other, and have a place just for us, where we can forget about space and time, and focus on erotic pleasure. It makes it possible to inhabit pleasure from humour, errors, fantasy, rather than giving importance to performance or results”.

From a more biological perspective, it ensures healthy play as it stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, responsible for relaxation and bonding. Therefore, when there is a regulated nervous system, eroticism takes place in a more organic way.

“In sexual encounters, games are important because they can help strengthen sexual desire, increasing arousal,” adds Diego Castro, psychologist at Psylive .

The first thing on which Javiera Urrutia, Ibania Gardilcic and Ignacia Rabanal agree is that in no case can a toy “replace” a partner. “It’s a supplement to sex life, it doesn’t come to replace anyone. Sometimes people come with many defenses, like I don’t need those things, but it’s not about needing or no, but to try and explore other ways of feeling”, explains Gardilcic.

“It’s a myth that a sex toy replaces the partner,” Rabanal endorses. It only makes it much harder to decide to use one. With the couple, there are feelings, dynamics and sensations that a toy can never give you”. Yes, they can be an “addition that brings complicity and novelty to the relationship, increasing sexual pleasure on an individual and mutual level”, believes Urrutia.

Among the benefits of adding a toy to bed, Gardilic lists reduced anxiety due to performance or erection duration, contribution to camaraderie—in the sense of “one who ends up helping the ‘other’—, an aid to self-awareness, lubrication, erection and orgasm, and even a development of muscle tone in the pelvic region.

“Finally, a toy can cause great arousal without penetration, so it also helps demystify coitocentric culture,” he suggests.

“I call this category ‘first vibrations'”, explains Ignacia Rabanal. “These are products that I recommend to start introducing your partner to pleasure accessories. My advice is to start with erotic cosmetics, such as stimulating gels, massage oils or flavored lubricants”.

A good toy to start with are small vibrators, such as the so-called “balites”. Rabanal recommends starting with them because “apart from being cheap, they give you a first approach to vibes.” They are gentler, less invasive and can be used both individually and in pairs. “It is very important to first use the toy alone or alone and then introduce it into the relationship, because the sensitivity of our genitals can vary from person to person.”

For men who want or need more stimulation, Rabanal suggests “masturbator eggs. With them you can discover new sensations, they are also inexpensive and discreet”, he adds, and they are easy to use as a couple. This model has the grace of being reusable.

“To start couple vibrations, I recommend a vibrating ring. With it, both people, regardless of gender, can experience pleasure, as it is able to stimulate both the clitoris and the base of the penis,” she adds.

Thinking of couples who are new to sex toys, Ibania Gardilic recommends starting with an “erotic case”. This kind of starter pack “has different sensations to play with: lubricant (not only for rubbing but also for stroking), oil with a heating effect (which stimulates different parts of the body), a heart with questions and topics to bind, and a ring vibrator”.

For couples who have already explored with certain toys, or want to move on to a more penetrating phase, Gardilic makes a recommendation that seems to be pulled straight from the adult version of the Jetsons.

“This toy, the Satisfyer Curvy 1+, has two qualities: the function of vibrating when you want and also the feeling of sucking or pleasure from the air, very pleasant and very popular these days”, he specifies. . But that’s not all, because it also has an application for the mobile phone, which connects via Bluetooth or the Internet, and allows you to control it remotely or give it different combinations of vibrations. “You can also use your mobile device’s microphone to turn ambient noise into vibrations or make it move to the beat of a Spotify playlist.”

Everything indicates that the Satisfyer brand would become something like the iPhone of adult toys. Javiera Urrutia, in fact, offers another version of this popular line of devices.

“The Satisfyer Partner Plus, with remote control, I think is ideal to use with heterosexual couples. Placed on the clitoris, the man can penetrate his partner vaginally at the same time, and thus benefit both vibrations. It’s a pleasure bomb! That it has a remote control, thinks the sex therapist, adds fun and complicity, “since you control your partner”.

Ignacia Rabanal explains that, for these reasons, the best-selling toy in the world is of this brand. But it does not refer to one of the vibrators but to the clitoral sucker, a stimulator that emits waves that simulate suction. Its success is due to the speed with which women manage to achieve intense orgasms.

“With this toy, women can practice double penetration,” suggests Javiera Urrutia. “You can place it in the anus while your partner penetrates you vaginally. If done correctly, this practice can bring satisfaction to both.

“For a female couple, the Pretty Love strapless vibrator is the best,” he says. “It’s designed to stimulate both at the same time.”

For more experienced or curious couples, Ibania offers two products. First, a “kit that brings a lot of sensations: it has oil with a heating effect for kissing, a male and female activator (2 in 1), a lubricant for rubbing and stroking, a clitoral stimulant and a vibrating bullet “.

Playing to block the sense of sight is one of the classic dynamics for heightening arousal. The handcuffs to block movement and the palmette are perfect for those looking to explore the role of submissive or dominant.

*Prices for products in this item are current as of October 26, 2022. Values ​​and availability may change.