“If I see that a healthy relationship with an athlete’s parents is not developing, then I prefer to leave” – coach Davydenko

Coach Kirill Davydenko told that he was breaking up with one of the skaters due to unsuccessful relationships with his parents.

— You talked about character. Children come with a certain temperament, can a coach correct it? Make him angrier in a sporting way.

– Angry is a bad word. Character is an innate quality, it’s all genetics and appropriate parenting. These terms give the character we are talking about.

— Parents often become involved in the training process. How to manage this?

– Of course, such situations happened to me too. There is no one-size-fits-all method to combat this. A banal phrase: everyone is individual. Likewise, parents are sometimes guided by good intentions, but often through fanaticism and hyper desire they become destructive.

The coach’s task is competent communication, but if I see that a healthy relationship is not developing, then I prefer to part with the athlete. Even for adult athletes, parents often have considerable influence. And for juniors, there is additional influence from family. If the rules of the triangle – parents-athlete-coach – are violated, I described the possible outcome earlier. There is excellent communication with Ramzenkov’s parents, which gives growth points.

— Were there situations when you broke up with a skater under the influence of your parents, and then this athlete “shot”?

— There have been many cases, but overall, I don’t believe in people changing. A person can, while gaining life experience, become different at certain moments,” Davydenko told .